Hrmmph. Men.
Right before I left for my vacation, one of my friends met a guy. I actually met him too, and we all went out to supper together. He told me privately that he was really smitten with her and he seemed like a great guy. While I was on my trip, they had some dates and seemed to be getting on really well. Then I talked to her over the past few days and found out that he'd turned from this totally sweet romantic guy to a complete and total asshole. She waited for him to call but was losing her patience with him.I shared two pieces of advice that I've learned over the years.
1. A relationship is supposed to be easy in the beginning. If it's hard and feels like work when you're first getting to know each other, there's no point.
2. If a guy is into you, he will do whatever he has to do to be with you. Even my ex-asshole did sweet things like pay for my massage when I couldn't afford it because my car got towed. And then he broke up with me by text message. Asshole.
Why do men break up with us by text message? Are they really such huge pussies? It's ok that they do it, though, because it makes it a lot easier to get over them. It's just so lame that I'd rather date a guy with balls, thanks.
And in a slightly related note, why would someone still call and leave messages acting like there's nothing weird about that when you've told them that you're never talking to them again and you've stopped answering the phone. Well, I know why he's doing it. He's stringing me along in case this reconciliation with his wife doesn't work out. That's so not happening...
Song of the day: "Stay" by Sugarland.
posted by Laura at
11:39 PM
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Elj - great post. It's somewhere in Greg's book, but a man would rather chew off his own fist, lose a limb or walk on hot coals while eating a scorpion....
...then tell us they don't want to be with us. Even though we look them in the eye and say "Just SAY IT!", they won't. They can't.
They're just not built that way.
What time is the ferry to Jost? I want to be on it.
xo
By
TanteToma, at
10/18/2007 10:40 AM
uhm... I am so feelin' this one. You've got no idea. Thanks for the post
By
Unknown, at
10/20/2007 7:53 PM
I told you I needed an update...
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Laura, at
10/21/2007 12:24 AM
Love your post!!! I so agree with a relationship is supposed to be easy in the beginning. If it's hard or feels like work when you're getting to know each other, there is no point. GOOD, GOOD ADVICE!!!!
My youngest daughter had a boyfriend one time that broe up with her over the phone. I always thought he was a pussy for doing so. But he was a mama's boy and his mama didn't like Youngest Daughter. I always thought... and still do, that his mama told him to break up with Youngest Daughter. I'd bet money she was standing over him while he was making the call. I often wonder what he is doing with his life now.
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Daisy, at
11/01/2007 5:28 PM
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